Taking the Reins

 

The Holiday season can bring out the best and worst in our fellow man.

Personally, I try my hardest to seek out the best in people. I understand we all have moments where we could stand to be a little more understanding and we all have our fair share of regrets, but our actions do speak volumes and we must do our best to keep that in mind as we live our lives.

Ever notice when you first meet someone, you get this gut feeling about the type of person they are? Then the more you spend time around them, you figure out the source of your discomfort whether it be them personally or something they’re into?

I always find it disheartening when I’ve taken the time to get to know someone and find them to be utter snakes.

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Anyway, I’ve taken a bit of time these past few weeks and done a little reflecting on my life and what I’ve done with it this past year.

I’ve had some disappointment’s and some highly encouraging times.

I’ve met some interesting characters this past year, some I’m happy to have become acquainted with and others… well, let’s just say I’ll be glad to cut ties with.   I’ve taken on some challenging endeavors with my new career as well.

I’ve always believed I can do anything, Not in a self-righteous way of course, but more of a determined and confident in my ability sort of way.   I’ve taken on most of my jobs without having much in the way of experience, just a good work ethic and strong willingness to learn.

Last year I left my 3 yr career as a Vet Tech and took a 360 turn towards something more business like and A little more mentally challenging for me.  

I still miss my old hospital, the unique cases we handled, the long hours, the educational meetings and conferences. And of course, the exotic animals I was able to tend to.  My new career choice hasn’t left me in want of a good challenge though.

“Site Administrator for an Industrial Electrical company”

A mouthful to say any time someone asks me what I do now for a living. Lol

To break it down:

I work on site (steel toe boots, neon jackets and hard hats) with a team of electricians, electrical apprentice’s and superintendents. Of course, we’re only one of a few different groups of talent that goes into the construction of a new building.

Since starting with this company I’ve learned a lot about the business and what all goes into the construction of a new building. The stress, the talent, and the knowledge needed to work through any unexpected problems that may arise.

Watching a building go from dirt (literally) to finished product is so interesting to me.  I can see the passion that goes into these projects.

So, besides signing papers, figuring out shipments and trying my best to keep the stress level to a minimum for my superintendents, I also took on the role of Safety Technician for our site.

So now it’s, Site administrator and Site safety technician for an Industrial electrical company.

A challenging new endeavor for me. But a fun one at that 🙂

The basics of safety on a job site are rather obvious and come easy to anyone with common sense. But there’s more involved than just hard hats and safety boots, as I’m learning daily.

Honestly, I’m taking it all in strides.

I’ve been learning a lot and picking up pointers from those who have been doing this way longer than I and from other contractors willing to give me advice and guidance. I’ve worked with some rather helpful people, a few piggish men and (of course) 1 or 2 guys that feel a woman doesn’t belong in this field.

For me, the more I’m looked at as incompetent and like I don’t belong, the more strength I feel towards proving them wrong.

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Jen

 

 

Fitness and the New year

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‘Tis the season for New Year resolutions!

And the top, most requested goal/wish for the new year is becoming a healthier version of yourself.

I love-making plans for the new year, mine usually start on my birthday (which is in November). I make a few small goals to finish out the year and then save my bigger plans for January 1st 🙂

What kind of goals do you usual make for yourself?

How do you set yourself up to crush them?

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Writing them down is always great step towards making them stick and helping them come one step closer to reality. 

Some people also suggest sharing the news with close friends or family as a way to help keep yourself accountable. But I’ve also heard about the “working in silence” strategy too-  Keeping the main goal (and reasoning why) to yourself to avoid negative remarks and unwanted comments. Understandable.

Today is seems even those wanting to be fit and healthy are getting shamed and treated like complete outsiders.

I love fitness and I’m in the process of making it more than just a hobby. I’ve been into fitness since way back when I first watched  The Biggest Loser  as a preteen and fell in love with Jillian Michaels  way of training 🙂   Around that same time I became a life long fan of Zuzka Light ( at that time she only had Youtube videos. Easy, but effective, at home High Intensity Interval Training- AKA “HIIT”. )   Since then she has grown immensely evenly in her training and business.

I could talk for hours about who I derive motivation from, but those two bombshell women will always be at the top of my list and my most inspiring idols.

So back to the fit shamming …. Do you have Instagram? If so, simply looking up “Fit” in the hashtags will show you a huge assortment of fitness loving individuals and their amazing journey while they become healthier and grow in the fitness field.  Then if you go as far as reading their captions (which most people fail to do now in this quick paced world) and further by reading the comments …. You’ll not just find motivated and loving comments meant to inspire the individual who made the post, but you’ll also find those lovely trolls who feel like everyone needs to feel miserable and unhappy no matter what they’re doing.

Personally, If you appreciate your sanity and like to believe that people cannot be so nasty towards other people trying to turn their health around or working their bums off to reach a goal… I wouldn’t dive to deep into the comment sections.

But that’s just my opinion. 

Today it seems we have to work even harder to keep our mental health in check while trying to grow and live our lives.

And no, I don’t believe – “If people stop putting their lives on Social media, they wouldn’t have to deal with trolls and hate…”.  Because this kind of hate is everywhere right now.   It’s at work, in our homes and schools. Heck, you can get heckled just walking down the street.

No. I believe this is all the more reason we must talk about what we love and learn to grow confident in what we have to share and say.

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Either way, Stand for who you are and what you believe in.  And don’t shut others out just because they think differently than you do.  Stay open-minded, and willing to learn why others love what they do and who they are.

I feel like I have jumped ship a little here, but when I get talking you never know which way I’ll end up going. lol

Long story short-  You do you boo, You do you!

 

Jen

Merry Christmas Eve!

I hope every is having a great holiday and getting some well needed rest before the new year starts.

I’m excited to start this new year off running.

I’ve been working on some new projects ( like usual) an taking on a few courses over the next year as well. Needless to say, I’m setting myself up for a very busy 2019 🙂

One thing I plan on rolling out this coming year is a better series of blogs. I’d like to start putting my writing out there more frequently and provide more informative posts for you guys. Something worth reading and taking up your time, whether it be educational posts or simply entertaining.

So what are your goals for this coming year?

I’m not a big fan of New Years resolutions myself, but I know for some people, that’s just the thing they need to help motivate them into taking action with their life goals and making their dreams a reality.

I hope you work hard this year and turn those dreams into something more.

~

Jen

I can’t Blog today! 😂

How on earth does one manage to write semi coherent things for people to read everyday?

I can journal everyday, that’s no problem at all. But actually writing something worth while and worth taking up someone’s time to read?.. That’s a different story.

 What do people even want to read? Do that many people even read lifestyle blogs anymore, ones that aren’t about making millions from home and quitting your job to be a full-time fashion/food lover/travel blogger?

Maybe I’ve watched to many Awkward episodes and I am expecting to much from my generation these days?   Lol 😂

Originally I started blogging (way back a few platforms ago) as a way to practice and hone my writing skills, share the books I was enjoying at the time and meet others who shared the same interests.

Blogging seemed the best platform since MySpace had ended, Facebook was (and still is) boring and Twitter just didn’t have enough characters. Lol

The downside to blogging though is trying to come up with things to write about everyday. 🤷🏻‍♀️🧐

How do you do it?

How does one come up with worth while content and stories to share on a daily or semi daily bases?

And do they even need to seem like “worth while stories” to you or do you just wing it and hope someone enjoys it?

I feel like I bounce between pure Rambles and Life updates … and if someone finds it worth while, then yeah me! 😄 lol

Otherwise the art of actually writing to bringing in clients/ followers via blogging just isn’t a skill I’ve mastered … yet 😉

Jen

Workaholic? Joyrider? Where do you fall in at life?

I’m working on 5 different blog posts right now and a new project I’m hoping to launch in the next month or so 😊(yeah me 🙏🏼)

Definitely being a busy bee since coming back from my vacation home

I’m both happy and slightly nerve racked to be back on the grind, retraining my brain to focus on my plans and deadlines VS thinking about lazy days and sunshine.

“If we really want it, we’ll do everything in our power to make it happen.”

Now that doesn’t always mean we’re dropping all contact with the outer world, ditching our friends and blowing off social commitments until we hit our goals.

Although for some, that works best for them.

We all don’t have to sacrifice fun and the enjoyment of living our lives just because we have business commitments

👆🏼 Read it, remember it, use it daily.

People tend to lean one way or the other.

They’re either workaholics or joyriders when it comes to their lives and futures. And both groups will inevitably get annoyed with the other.

The Workaholics : Those who put their priorities above most enjoyment and get dumped on for never having fun, going wild or partying it up with the rest of them. All while they’re also envied when they reach certain stepping stones and hear the never ending “you’re so lucky to have that/ be able to do that!” 🙄 blah ..

Lucky?

No, luck doesn’t have anything to do with it. Some just set plans and make their priorities fall in line with them. Why should they sacrifice their dreams just for a weekend of partying or those friends who always lead to trouble ?

“If we really want it, we’ll do everything in our power to make it happen.”

It’s as simple as that

Others,

The Joyriders: They really don’t care what they do. Mostly live pay-check to pay-check, live beyond their means and consistently feel the need to bash those who “have it all figured out” or “always get what they want“. Never admitting that their own lack of effort and commitment is what’s keeping them behind.

They’re the type who always seems to have an excuse and a complaint.

Personally, I fall in the workaholic category.

Kind of an 80/20 rule…

I like having a set plan, figuring out what my top to lower priorities are and focusing all my attention on reaching those set goals. As long as I feel I’m giving my priorities the attention they deserve, I’ll still keep living my life and hanging out with my friends and managing that (hard to find) ideal balance between work and play. 👌🏼

But when living life and being with friends or family begin to suffocate my goals and set me back… I cut ties for a while.

And that’s NOT a bad thing!

You have to remember that we’re all individual people, we have to take care of our own needs and wants. Always worrying about what others will think or say… or complain about and accuse… that negativity will kill you both.

One will stop living their life just so they can complain about yours and the other with eventually get tired of being dumped on that they themselves will develop a negative outlook on their life.

Makes for a viscous cycle of unhappiness if you ask me.

So what would you call yourself? A workaholic, joyrider or someone in the middle?

Jen

Traveling thoughts/Ramble

Do you ever have those moments where you are driving down the road and suddenly feel extreamly small and overwhelmed by either the scenery or the traffic?

If the highway goes from 2 or 3 lanes to 6 … I become stressed out and my anxiety is on high gear.  Even if I’m only a passenger and not the one currently in control of the car 😳….🤦🏻‍♀️

But take me to the country side (or mountains for this matter) and the feeling is quite different. I don’t feel overwhelmed in a way that scares me, but in a way that leaves me completely at awe.

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I’ve driven through this section of Tennessee / Kentucky twice now , and both times I was left completely jaw dropped at its beauty.

The first trip the colours of fall were still very vivid and mesmerising 😍 This trip the green of spring has finally settled in.

Watching the mountains roll along and listening to the breeze and sounds of nature always leave me feeling calm and inspired ✨

I’m not the preachy type, or churchy type for that matter. Over the years I found that I feel the closet to God simply sitting out in the world he created.

Something about the breeze, the chirping birds (and the occasionally bug bite) make me feel like he’s taken the time to sit down and enjoy the view right along with me.

🤔 Now that I’ve rambled on a bit and seem to have lost my original train of thought 😅

Here’s a short video I took with my phone while we drove through ☺️

Are we even still around?

It’s been a long, long time since I sat down and let the voices in my head run freely onto the page (or screen)…

I believe they are starting to question my love for them and if I still care enough about them to ever set them free.

 

So, with that being said.  I’m sitting here sipping on my second cup of green tea while I try to figure out what exactly made me give up and stopped writing so much.    I have an amazing (If I toot my own horn- Toot Toot 😉 lol ) story sitting in my briefcase halfway through the second draft, and countless other notes and partial stories sitting right alongside it.  So why am I not diving into completing them??

I keep saying its “Life” and getting too caught up with working versus relaxing and taking the time to “work” on what I love and what one day I hope will be one of my main sources of financial stability. But the fact is, or what I now have come to terms with, is it’s not “Life” that is throwing a wrench in my brain train, its that I’ve lost my sense of privacy.

I’m a very private writer, I like to lock myself up in my house (or room… or car… or hide in the woods.. lol whichever fuels my thought process) and since I’ve switched jobs and have been spending more time traveling and not really having a set schedule to go by, my mind just doesn’t seem to feel as free as it did when I was home.

It is far beyond time to change that.

It’s been a while….

So, I’m no longer in Georgia with access to a lovely poolside view 😔…

Nope, I’m currently in South Carolina! 🙌🏼 After staying for a month in a “ok” hotel, I’m now set up in a cute little farm house out in the boonies lol.

(Seriously, cell service and internet connection vary depending on the weather).

And speaking of weather.

For about 2 minutes it snowed down here yesterday! 😳 Yes, snowed.

Only after it rained all morning though and then when that brief 2 minutes of snow ended… the ice pellets began to fall and the roads became slip-n-slides.

Gotta love the south for their random weather 🤷🏻‍♀️😂

Here’s a little peak out my upstairs window.

More pictures to come as soon as I remove the work related photos from my SD card 👌🏼

Jen

Changing things up 

Hey guys,

So if you’ve noticed, my website has (well still is) going through a bit of a change. 

Some of it is intentional and some was not 🙈 … yea, I won’t pretend to be a website guru or act like I understand what all those side bars mean.  So needless to say, I made a few errors and I’m trying to fix it lol 😊 

Bare with me and hopefully by the time I’m finished I’ll have a decent webpage 💜

Jen

Little bit of life

Slowly getting adjusted in the new apartment. I’m really enjoying having a pool right here and so many of them to choose from! lol

6 pools in this complex and so far I’ve only visited one. They also have a hot tub, sauna, indoor tanning beds and a gym set up for weight training in one room, cardio in another, and still a separate room for stretching, yoga or pilates 🙂

ahh, yes. Very nice ❤

Some of the equipment may not be as up to par as it would in a normal gym but hey, as long as it gets the job done.

Needless to say, this place has everything I need to relax and balance my mind on my days off.  Just wish they had allowed me to bring my Bella girl here…

But that’s life.

Now, as for the writing, I’ve been focusing on editing my next book vs dabbling in my other projects. Although I’m still keeping good notes and may write a sentence or two (for note purposes lol) for my other projects, I’m trying my best to focus on one story at a time.

I’m hoping to get a desk set up soon so I can have a designated writing area. Don’t know yet if I’ll take over the screen porch or if I’ll just set something up in my room.?  But I know I need to make a space all my own in order for me to block out the world and complete my story.

Tomorrow I’m going to check out our local Starbucks (which happens to be just 2 minutes down the road) and see how busy they are of a morning to see if that could be a possible writing location.   It doesn’t seem near as busy as the one I would go to in IL, so maybe people down here aren’t as into it as us northerners lol

anyway,

Jen