Taking the Reins

 

The Holiday season can bring out the best and worst in our fellow man.

Personally, I try my hardest to seek out the best in people. I understand we all have moments where we could stand to be a little more understanding and we all have our fair share of regrets, but our actions do speak volumes and we must do our best to keep that in mind as we live our lives.

Ever notice when you first meet someone, you get this gut feeling about the type of person they are? Then the more you spend time around them, you figure out the source of your discomfort whether it be them personally or something they’re into?

I always find it disheartening when I’ve taken the time to get to know someone and find them to be utter snakes.

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Anyway, I’ve taken a bit of time these past few weeks and done a little reflecting on my life and what I’ve done with it this past year.

I’ve had some disappointment’s and some highly encouraging times.

I’ve met some interesting characters this past year, some I’m happy to have become acquainted with and others… well, let’s just say I’ll be glad to cut ties with.   I’ve taken on some challenging endeavors with my new career as well.

I’ve always believed I can do anything, Not in a self-righteous way of course, but more of a determined and confident in my ability sort of way.   I’ve taken on most of my jobs without having much in the way of experience, just a good work ethic and strong willingness to learn.

Last year I left my 3 yr career as a Vet Tech and took a 360 turn towards something more business like and A little more mentally challenging for me.  

I still miss my old hospital, the unique cases we handled, the long hours, the educational meetings and conferences. And of course, the exotic animals I was able to tend to.  My new career choice hasn’t left me in want of a good challenge though.

“Site Administrator for an Industrial Electrical company”

A mouthful to say any time someone asks me what I do now for a living. Lol

To break it down:

I work on site (steel toe boots, neon jackets and hard hats) with a team of electricians, electrical apprentice’s and superintendents. Of course, we’re only one of a few different groups of talent that goes into the construction of a new building.

Since starting with this company I’ve learned a lot about the business and what all goes into the construction of a new building. The stress, the talent, and the knowledge needed to work through any unexpected problems that may arise.

Watching a building go from dirt (literally) to finished product is so interesting to me.  I can see the passion that goes into these projects.

So, besides signing papers, figuring out shipments and trying my best to keep the stress level to a minimum for my superintendents, I also took on the role of Safety Technician for our site.

So now it’s, Site administrator and Site safety technician for an Industrial electrical company.

A challenging new endeavor for me. But a fun one at that 🙂

The basics of safety on a job site are rather obvious and come easy to anyone with common sense. But there’s more involved than just hard hats and safety boots, as I’m learning daily.

Honestly, I’m taking it all in strides.

I’ve been learning a lot and picking up pointers from those who have been doing this way longer than I and from other contractors willing to give me advice and guidance. I’ve worked with some rather helpful people, a few piggish men and (of course) 1 or 2 guys that feel a woman doesn’t belong in this field.

For me, the more I’m looked at as incompetent and like I don’t belong, the more strength I feel towards proving them wrong.

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Jen

 

 

Merry Christmas Eve!

I hope every is having a great holiday and getting some well needed rest before the new year starts.

I’m excited to start this new year off running.

I’ve been working on some new projects ( like usual) an taking on a few courses over the next year as well. Needless to say, I’m setting myself up for a very busy 2019 🙂

One thing I plan on rolling out this coming year is a better series of blogs. I’d like to start putting my writing out there more frequently and provide more informative posts for you guys. Something worth reading and taking up your time, whether it be educational posts or simply entertaining.

So what are your goals for this coming year?

I’m not a big fan of New Years resolutions myself, but I know for some people, that’s just the thing they need to help motivate them into taking action with their life goals and making their dreams a reality.

I hope you work hard this year and turn those dreams into something more.

~

Jen

We’re only here for a short time…

So why not make the most of it?

It’s definitely time to stop living in someone else’s shadow, or in fear of being judged harshly and treated poorly.

Seriously, life is about rejections and growth.

Life is about learning from your mistakes and coming out stronger in the end.

It’s time to take a stand in your own life and do the things you’re afraid of.

Really! We only have a short time on this earth and honestly, even that isn’t promised to us. Heck, I could fall asleep in the next five minutes and never wake back up.

We’re not promised a damn thing in this world. Or owed anything either.

If you want something badly enough, go out and make it happen.

You want to be a writer?

Then write!

You want to be published??

Then get out there and set yourself up for a couple dozen rejections and don’t stop there!

Or better yet, research the self publishing world and try that on for size 🤷🏻‍♀️

A lot is changing for me over the next two months and I’m both excited and nervous as hell for it. And I’ll be sharing every moment with all of you 💕

Jen

Traveling, life and writing

I’ve actually been writing a blog post everyday this past month and saving them in my drafts file until I’ve had the time to properly edit them.  I’m aiming to post something each day during November, some will be life related and or course, writing through NaNoWriMo . 

We’re so close to Nanowrimo that I’m getting all the feels as October comes closer to an end.  

Have you decided if you’re tackling the challenge yet?

If so, have you declared your novel already?

The first year that I joined the 50,000 word mark, I did it all “offline” vs really getting involved with the site. I wasn’t sure If I’d enjoy it, or if I’d fit in… or if I’d even be able to manage it. I honestly didn’t want to commit to it and look like an idiot if I failed.

But failing is a part of the process. 

And you never know if you’ll fail or succeed if you don’t put yourself out there and try.

Workaholic? Joyrider? Where do you fall in at life?

I’m working on 5 different blog posts right now and a new project I’m hoping to launch in the next month or so 😊(yeah me 🙏🏼)

Definitely being a busy bee since coming back from my vacation home

I’m both happy and slightly nerve racked to be back on the grind, retraining my brain to focus on my plans and deadlines VS thinking about lazy days and sunshine.

“If we really want it, we’ll do everything in our power to make it happen.”

Now that doesn’t always mean we’re dropping all contact with the outer world, ditching our friends and blowing off social commitments until we hit our goals.

Although for some, that works best for them.

We all don’t have to sacrifice fun and the enjoyment of living our lives just because we have business commitments

👆🏼 Read it, remember it, use it daily.

People tend to lean one way or the other.

They’re either workaholics or joyriders when it comes to their lives and futures. And both groups will inevitably get annoyed with the other.

The Workaholics : Those who put their priorities above most enjoyment and get dumped on for never having fun, going wild or partying it up with the rest of them. All while they’re also envied when they reach certain stepping stones and hear the never ending “you’re so lucky to have that/ be able to do that!” 🙄 blah ..

Lucky?

No, luck doesn’t have anything to do with it. Some just set plans and make their priorities fall in line with them. Why should they sacrifice their dreams just for a weekend of partying or those friends who always lead to trouble ?

“If we really want it, we’ll do everything in our power to make it happen.”

It’s as simple as that

Others,

The Joyriders: They really don’t care what they do. Mostly live pay-check to pay-check, live beyond their means and consistently feel the need to bash those who “have it all figured out” or “always get what they want“. Never admitting that their own lack of effort and commitment is what’s keeping them behind.

They’re the type who always seems to have an excuse and a complaint.

Personally, I fall in the workaholic category.

Kind of an 80/20 rule…

I like having a set plan, figuring out what my top to lower priorities are and focusing all my attention on reaching those set goals. As long as I feel I’m giving my priorities the attention they deserve, I’ll still keep living my life and hanging out with my friends and managing that (hard to find) ideal balance between work and play. 👌🏼

But when living life and being with friends or family begin to suffocate my goals and set me back… I cut ties for a while.

And that’s NOT a bad thing!

You have to remember that we’re all individual people, we have to take care of our own needs and wants. Always worrying about what others will think or say… or complain about and accuse… that negativity will kill you both.

One will stop living their life just so they can complain about yours and the other with eventually get tired of being dumped on that they themselves will develop a negative outlook on their life.

Makes for a viscous cycle of unhappiness if you ask me.

So what would you call yourself? A workaholic, joyrider or someone in the middle?

Jen

A writers time is now

“We’re not meant to be normal”

I’ve heard that so many times in the last week, in regards to writers and the overly creative hearts.

We really aren’t meant to be normal, not even a little bit. We can pretend we enjoy the nitty gritty of the real world and work right along with the best of them, building our name, climbing the ladder of success.

But are we truly happy doing it?

We can justify the money, the acknowledgment and the sense of achievement we get from moving on up in the real world…. but are we really truly happy and fulfilled?

I feel, in most cases, we are not.

Not unless that ladder and those achievements revolve around our need to be creative. Because that is our real world.

Some of us are not meant to feel fulfilled working the 9-5 gimmick.

I honestly end up feeling so stifled and hushed once I reach the point in my muggle job where things are running in an autopilot mode and I no longer feel challenged.

In some cases, I like it. The more I run on auto at work, the faster I get things done and (in reality) the sooner I am released to focus on my writing.

But In most cases, that isn’t how things play out.

I usually end up with more on my plate simply because I’ve proven myself to be a reliable asset and dedicated worker .

If only they knew I really just wanted to leave , sip on some tea and get lost in a few far away worlds.

I know this started off as smart and turned into a ramble rant lol but heck, that’s how my mind has been running lately.

Might as well just go with it

Jen

This is what words look like? lol…

Same old, same old with me.

I’ve been working a lot and not spending as much time as I need to be spending on my writing or my current TBR pile… I’m afraid I’ll not reach the end of these books anytime soon…

I’m really hoping to spend this weekend working on a few revisions and some edits for a new project of mine.      I’m excited to see this one through to the end. It’s only one of a few stories I’ve come up with that I honestly have no idea what the ending will be like, so It’s bringing up a few new challenges and struggles for me.

I’ve been tinkering with the idea (and doing some light research) on finding a literary agent for my books…  Not sure what will come of this just yet, but it’s an idea that has come to mind a few times and I feel it’s worth the energy to look into a bit more.

On the TBR pile note: I’ve stacked up a good …12…16… I honestly lost count lol       

But! I’m determined to finish at least one before the month is over!  So I need to get cracking on it!

My reading pace has slowed way down since this time last year…ugh… I need to work on bringing it back up to snuff

 

Anyway! There’s my mini life update 🙂 

Jen

Why must we (as writers) explain our need to write?

Ok, so writing-related post here (of course, why am I even stating it?) I don’t know lol.

Anyway, writing.

Or better yet, What I’m writing these days.

Right now, I’m working on my next book series (7 in total) along with two other novels.  I’m hoping to have completed the 2 novels by the end of this year and to have most of my 7-book series, somewhat laid out and organized.

It’s honestly been rough trying to find the time (an energy) to sit down, relax my brain, and focus on my stories lately.

I’ve felt very stifled recently.

It seems the more I try to focus on my work, the more I’m needing to explain myself and the importance of my writing. I do believe no one really understands the creative process or how much it means to someone until they themselves have tried to create something they’re passionate about.

And It’s not like I’m completely shutting myself off from the world (even though I’d love to do that right about now). I’m honestly trying my hardest to balance it all.

Yes, I’m still young enough to believe it is fully possible to do what you love, hold a steady job (if it’s not your passion you’ve turned into a thriving business) and still manages to have an active social life.

I see all these writers on social media out having a blast with their friends, traveling to book conventions and enjoying writing seminaries, all while still managing to put out new content and publications.  And I’m always left feeling very underachieved and behind with the times.

And then having to justify why I want to spend an hour reading or why I like to spend time/money in a bookstore, just makes me even more irritated and frustrated with life.

Ugh!

Lol, I’m not mopping right, to be honest.

I’m just venting out my frustrations in the hope I’m not the only one dealing with these issues.

The life of a writer, I suppose.

Rant over lol

-Jen

Are we even still around?

It’s been a long, long time since I sat down and let the voices in my head run freely onto the page (or screen)…

I believe they are starting to question my love for them and if I still care enough about them to ever set them free.

 

So, with that being said.  I’m sitting here sipping on my second cup of green tea while I try to figure out what exactly made me give up and stopped writing so much.    I have an amazing (If I toot my own horn- Toot Toot 😉 lol ) story sitting in my briefcase halfway through the second draft, and countless other notes and partial stories sitting right alongside it.  So why am I not diving into completing them??

I keep saying its “Life” and getting too caught up with working versus relaxing and taking the time to “work” on what I love and what one day I hope will be one of my main sources of financial stability. But the fact is, or what I now have come to terms with, is it’s not “Life” that is throwing a wrench in my brain train, its that I’ve lost my sense of privacy.

I’m a very private writer, I like to lock myself up in my house (or room… or car… or hide in the woods.. lol whichever fuels my thought process) and since I’ve switched jobs and have been spending more time traveling and not really having a set schedule to go by, my mind just doesn’t seem to feel as free as it did when I was home.

It is far beyond time to change that.

It’s been a while….

So, I’m no longer in Georgia with access to a lovely poolside view 😔…

Nope, I’m currently in South Carolina! 🙌🏼 After staying for a month in a “ok” hotel, I’m now set up in a cute little farm house out in the boonies lol.

(Seriously, cell service and internet connection vary depending on the weather).

And speaking of weather.

For about 2 minutes it snowed down here yesterday! 😳 Yes, snowed.

Only after it rained all morning though and then when that brief 2 minutes of snow ended… the ice pellets began to fall and the roads became slip-n-slides.

Gotta love the south for their random weather 🤷🏻‍♀️😂

Here’s a little peak out my upstairs window.

More pictures to come as soon as I remove the work related photos from my SD card 👌🏼

Jen