Eternal Youth

Don’t we all feel like living forever young at some point in our life?

Well guess what I’m doing? I’m sitting her in the 1950’s pretending I’ve bleached my hair so much that my brain cells have been damaged to the point that I have no answers for any questions that may come my way.

I’m physically having to sit on my hands and tell people “I’m sorry, I don’t know. You’ll have to ask someone else” simply because I’m being to bossy for those who’s egos are to frail to work as a team.

I am dumbstruck to the point of laughter lol

I’ve already been asked what’s wrong and have a handful of people thinking I’m now mad at them because I keep sending them elsewhere with their questions. 

“You don’t know? You never not know, and even when you really don’t know , you get me the answers faster than anyone else. so what did I do to piss you off into silence” 

Yes, normally I do.    I’m a busy bee, workaholic, I know how to ask questions and feel timeliness is important. If I don’t know the answer to something, I figure out who does or who would know and hit them for the info. Simple as that.

But that is over kill apparently.  And it is proving an extreme struggle to break everyone (including myself) of the habits we have become so use to. 

I can’t even ask someone to make sure they don’t forget something without being looked at like insolent women who’s speaking out of turn. LOL

And that’s my new thing now, I want a coffee mug that says “Insolent Women” just so I can display it on my desk 😉

 I am very opinionated, blunt and to the point in 90% of my life. We all know it’s 2019 and most people these days are to sensitive for straight forward talk, but you’d think there would still be a handful of people who could carry on adult conversation and not feel so threatened by straightforwardness.

So here I am, pretending I don’t care about a thing.  Pretending I am a shy, quiet female with no spine or knowledge of my surroundings. 

We’ll see how long this last.

 

\AG/

Merry Christmas Eve!

I hope every is having a great holiday and getting some well needed rest before the new year starts.

I’m excited to start this new year off running.

I’ve been working on some new projects ( like usual) an taking on a few courses over the next year as well. Needless to say, I’m setting myself up for a very busy 2019 🙂

One thing I plan on rolling out this coming year is a better series of blogs. I’d like to start putting my writing out there more frequently and provide more informative posts for you guys. Something worth reading and taking up your time, whether it be educational posts or simply entertaining.

So what are your goals for this coming year?

I’m not a big fan of New Years resolutions myself, but I know for some people, that’s just the thing they need to help motivate them into taking action with their life goals and making their dreams a reality.

I hope you work hard this year and turn those dreams into something more.

~

Jen

Making muggle life decisions?…

How’s that for a thought-provoking title? 

But in all seriousness here… Is your Job enjoyable?  It is necessary to your life?

While I was browsing through my social media accounts and catching up on some blog reading, I came across a couple posts (from fellow writers) basically bashing their jobs and talking about how creatively draining it was to go to work each day.

WOW…

I understand this, to a point.  Some day’s it is physically (and emotionally) hard to pull myself away from a good book, a research project or my current WIP, to dress accordingly and drag my butt out into the muggle world.  I’m an introvert… We don’t like people! lol  But it’s not always a chore to go to work, and the few jobs I had that did feel like that, I left after a short while.

But to hate your job that much?… Why keep it?   I mean, what is the best (or better) option for someone who feeds off of freedom and yet, still needs a decent amount of funds to live off of?

Some people give up everything and focus their lives solely on their art and creative side. But most in that situation end up relying on someone else or someone”‘s” to help support them. 

Others, give up on their creativity and push it off until “the right time” comes around. Which doesn’t always happen.

And a few (myself included) try their best to balance both the creative side of their lives and the deemed “required to live” side Aka The muggle job.

            And just like that, I forgot where I was going with this….. LOL Just kidding

The question all this reading made me keep asking myself is “What do you deem worth it?” When do you stop and say NO, this job or life isn’t what I want and isn’t helping get to where I want to be?

And if you decide it’s not right for you, what do you do? What is your next step?

I’ve spent so much time struggling with what I want out of life and how to make things work for the best or at least, for the better for me and those close to me. For the most part, I tend to look at those closest to me and try to make a choice that keeps them in mind and benefits the both of us.

Or, taking the advice of a good friend – If I’m unsure of what to do or what needs to change, I change nothing until I’m sure of it. 

But how do you decide what is the best way? How do you decide what is worth it and what is not? When do you make the call to finally move on?

How do you make it all work?

 

 

 

 

Workaholic? Joyrider? Where do you fall in at life?

I’m working on 5 different blog posts right now and a new project I’m hoping to launch in the next month or so 😊(yeah me 🙏🏼)

Definitely being a busy bee since coming back from my vacation home

I’m both happy and slightly nerve racked to be back on the grind, retraining my brain to focus on my plans and deadlines VS thinking about lazy days and sunshine.

“If we really want it, we’ll do everything in our power to make it happen.”

Now that doesn’t always mean we’re dropping all contact with the outer world, ditching our friends and blowing off social commitments until we hit our goals.

Although for some, that works best for them.

We all don’t have to sacrifice fun and the enjoyment of living our lives just because we have business commitments

👆🏼 Read it, remember it, use it daily.

People tend to lean one way or the other.

They’re either workaholics or joyriders when it comes to their lives and futures. And both groups will inevitably get annoyed with the other.

The Workaholics : Those who put their priorities above most enjoyment and get dumped on for never having fun, going wild or partying it up with the rest of them. All while they’re also envied when they reach certain stepping stones and hear the never ending “you’re so lucky to have that/ be able to do that!” 🙄 blah ..

Lucky?

No, luck doesn’t have anything to do with it. Some just set plans and make their priorities fall in line with them. Why should they sacrifice their dreams just for a weekend of partying or those friends who always lead to trouble ?

“If we really want it, we’ll do everything in our power to make it happen.”

It’s as simple as that

Others,

The Joyriders: They really don’t care what they do. Mostly live pay-check to pay-check, live beyond their means and consistently feel the need to bash those who “have it all figured out” or “always get what they want“. Never admitting that their own lack of effort and commitment is what’s keeping them behind.

They’re the type who always seems to have an excuse and a complaint.

Personally, I fall in the workaholic category.

Kind of an 80/20 rule…

I like having a set plan, figuring out what my top to lower priorities are and focusing all my attention on reaching those set goals. As long as I feel I’m giving my priorities the attention they deserve, I’ll still keep living my life and hanging out with my friends and managing that (hard to find) ideal balance between work and play. 👌🏼

But when living life and being with friends or family begin to suffocate my goals and set me back… I cut ties for a while.

And that’s NOT a bad thing!

You have to remember that we’re all individual people, we have to take care of our own needs and wants. Always worrying about what others will think or say… or complain about and accuse… that negativity will kill you both.

One will stop living their life just so they can complain about yours and the other with eventually get tired of being dumped on that they themselves will develop a negative outlook on their life.

Makes for a viscous cycle of unhappiness if you ask me.

So what would you call yourself? A workaholic, joyrider or someone in the middle?

Jen

Why must we (as writers) explain our need to write?

Ok, so writing-related post here (of course, why am I even stating it?) I don’t know lol.

Anyway, writing.

Or better yet, What I’m writing these days.

Right now, I’m working on my next book series (7 in total) along with two other novels.  I’m hoping to have completed the 2 novels by the end of this year and to have most of my 7-book series, somewhat laid out and organized.

It’s honestly been rough trying to find the time (an energy) to sit down, relax my brain, and focus on my stories lately.

I’ve felt very stifled recently.

It seems the more I try to focus on my work, the more I’m needing to explain myself and the importance of my writing. I do believe no one really understands the creative process or how much it means to someone until they themselves have tried to create something they’re passionate about.

And It’s not like I’m completely shutting myself off from the world (even though I’d love to do that right about now). I’m honestly trying my hardest to balance it all.

Yes, I’m still young enough to believe it is fully possible to do what you love, hold a steady job (if it’s not your passion you’ve turned into a thriving business) and still manages to have an active social life.

I see all these writers on social media out having a blast with their friends, traveling to book conventions and enjoying writing seminaries, all while still managing to put out new content and publications.  And I’m always left feeling very underachieved and behind with the times.

And then having to justify why I want to spend an hour reading or why I like to spend time/money in a bookstore, just makes me even more irritated and frustrated with life.

Ugh!

Lol, I’m not mopping right, to be honest.

I’m just venting out my frustrations in the hope I’m not the only one dealing with these issues.

The life of a writer, I suppose.

Rant over lol

-Jen

Expecting perfection in the beginning…how niave we are

What type of person are you?

Do you expect perfection from day one or do you allow yourself the chance to fail and become better?

For me, I tend to bounce back and fourth. One day I can be very optimistic that I am growing and becoming a little better and then the next day I can feel completely miserable with my progress or lack there of. 


I’ve read this quote a lot lately ( and a few others